Memorial Flashback 2016: Straight Guy Explains Why He Goes To Gay Bars

As many of our writers enjoy the Memorial Day weekend here in the US by traveling to see family or hanging with friends, we look back at the top 2 stories from this weekend in the past years of 2013 to the present. Here's the Top Story from 2016.


 YouTuber Chris Thompson (SupDaily06) opens up about why he, a straight guy, frequents gay bars. 

See what you think of his explanation!

 

 

What do you think?

 

(H/T: Boy Culture)

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I'm from the era of the late 70's early 80's when in the south the entrances of the gay bars were in the alley in the back of he bar. When I first experienced a gay bar their were as many gay's as their were STR8  people. Everybody was having a good time, drinking, dancing, laughing, enjoying the drag show's. If you wer a gay guy & you made a pass to a STR8 Guy & he politely said I don't swing that way their was no problem. All the people who patronized the bar stood together to keep trouble makers out & not have the police involved. One of the first gay bars had rooms down stairs that afforded men to have sex with each other & also had a patio that people went out to to smoke marijuana. It was a time that people accepted each other the way they were. I miss those days. To those people who are angry that you go to a gay bar need to get over them selves. They should experience going to a gay bar before they get bent out of shape.

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i go to straight clubs for the music, i don't like alot of house mix music, at straight clubs i get to hear slow love songs being played.

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I do a lot of straight married guys. They're the most fun. They will stay married and be good husbands and fathers. I don't see why they should break up their families just because they like dudes too. They're much more fun in bed. And they have a much higher chance of being disease-free because they are tops and don't expose themselves to body fluids. Granted you must observe for obvious signs of syphillis and gonorrhea, but hepatitis and HIV are rare.

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Fuckin Closet Case!

Bye Falicia 

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Straight guy???! My fucking foot! 

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I think he should come to my house and watch Netflix without his pants on  (if he happened to be going commando, then all the better).  Plus the drinks are strong and cheap. 

I read recently that the last gay bar in Tel Aviv closed, because basically all the bars there are now really gay friendly and there isn't the need anymore.  But America is full of Pilgrims, so that won't work here.

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I think he just needs to admit he’s gay!

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This guy- Chris- is closeted. Saw him make out at Eleven in weho about five years ago

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I'm 62 years old.  I came out to myself and others at 51.  I've talked with straight girls going to gay bars and they tell me that they go to the gay bars to just have fun without being molested and harassed by straight guys all night.  They aren't there to make fun of the gays (I would guess that THAT is most of them) -- there are always a few who try (in vain, I might add) to demonstrate their superiority over gay men. 

I have a step-son who went to a gay bar with his girlfriend and got his ass touched by a gay man while on the dance floor.  He whirled around and punched the guy's lights out.  Damn, I thought I raised him better than that.

So what if a straight guy comes to a gay bar?  If he does, he had better understand that guys may try to pick him up, or touch him in places that he might not like.  THAT is what it's like for straight girls in straight bars and THAT is why the straight girls mostly come to the gay bars... get a clue, cavemen!  I've gone to straight bars where the straight men flirt with me and I've even had a couple try to pick me up.  That's ok, I don't mind, but I'm not interested in straight men, frankly.  I am attracted only to gay men (doesn't mean I don't appreciate the attention).  Interesting thing, though, all of the straight guys, who have come on to me, were WAY younger than me by 30 to 35 years or so.  Honestly, I've never thought of myself as being all that attractive.

I have read a number of the comments made by people here, and I am amazed by the immaturity a lot of them exhibit (gay as well as straight).  In my experience, most people who are homophobic or get freaked out by someone of the same sex touching or flirting with them or trying to pick them up are very insecure people, in general, or are insecure about their own sexuality.  A LOT of them are people who may have same sex attraction, to a degree, and just cannot accept their own sexuality.  I know, because I was like that before I came out to myself.  I am not saying that these are hard and fast rules, however.  Some are just drama queens who have fun causing trouble.

The young man who made this video is really pretty mature, in my reckoning, judging solely from this video's content and his demeanor, and is probably pretty low keyed on picking up girls, and is polite and doesn't come on too strong to the girls, I would imagine.  I would always welcome him into whatever gay bar I'm in, appreciate his presence, enjoy his company, and yes, think that he was cute and sexy, but respect the fact that he is straight.  If he IS closeted gay or bisexual, he has to discover that in his own way and in his own time, and it's my responsibility as a bar patron to create a safe environment for him to explore.

I've also frequented a local lesbian bar, and had a LOT of fun there with my "lesbie friends" (as in "let's be friends").  You know, we can all have a lot of fun and find companionship if we can just respect each other and enjoy one another's company.  I have a wonderful husband, who is 15 years younger than me, and the relationship blossomed from friendship, without effort, because we came from a place of respect and compassion.  Our marriage just grows stronger, day by day, because of that mutual respect and compassion and the way we demonstrate love to each other.  Try using that respect and compassion and you will make many very loyal friends, gay, lesbian, straight, transgender, etc.  You might even find a soul-mate.

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met him in weho a couple of years ago-he was flirting-closet case

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You’re 100% right on all of it. Ok I’ll admit. I will expose myself to you after ignoring my passes. Lol hope I see you soon 

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I have had many experiences at gay bars as well as straight bars in NYC and also in Fort Lauderdale. Sometimes is a good thing that straight guys are open and willing to go have good time at a gay bar, As soon as they are really and sincerely open mind about it. Knowing that been good looking and attractive to someone, there are more chances that gay guys will hit and flirting with them. Which in any case doesn't make them gay. But be friendly, polite and respectful when thanking for compliments received. Is true that many gay guys feel the necessity to show the world how gay they are, when there is no need for that. I don't think been gay or straight is a choice, is just who you are  and even though sometimes is hard for others to respect that! I wish I could have the same respect we give to straight girls and guys going to a gay bar, when we go to a straight bar, they have no problem to let you know in  certain way, that they don't want any troubles at their establishment.. Which in any cases, we are afraid to tell the straight guys that visit gay bars! I think gay bars should be polite enough to tell all their visitors about what kind of establishment they are and to be respectful when you are inside! The same for all gay and straight establishments. Just go enjoy it and have good time with an open mind, without causing any troubles. As someone said; Is nice to be good, But is also good to be nice.  That's my own opinion, feel free to express yours too. About the subject matter, not about the opinion of others. Enjoy

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For all the reasons listed above, dear Chris, glad you are not freaked out by gays, but stay on your lane.

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How annoying that he goes to a gay bar to pick up girls? He's not bad looking so don't know why he has to resort to that desperate, loser tactic. The downside is that he then tells his straight male friends to do the same and before you know it, your local gay bar is a straight frat party.

Also, gay guys don't want to have to deal w/ accidentally hitting on a straight guy and in my experience, many straight guys don't take kindly to it and get offended and disturbed. That pisses me off because its a gay bar- hello? Get out if you dont like it,

 No matter what people say, gay guys are  not just thinking of having a good time when going to a gay bar but also getting laid. I want to be able to choose from a room full of gay guys and not  have to wade through a crowd of straight men (and women) to do that,

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Sounds a little too overthought and dramatic to be convincing.  Diversity is a good thing.  Besides you never know when you can turn a hot straight guy.  A few beers, an attractive personality, and a hot body can help open a closed mind.  Score!

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I think it is your choice. Yes you are good looking Chris. I have no problems with open minded straights going to gay bars. They usually are not the ones causing trouble. The ones causing trouble are the ones who don't need to be there because they cannot afford it which causes them to attempt to leach off of everyone. I love diversity and fight for Equality. So why would I discriminate? To respect and love one another as fellow humans are key. As long as nobody is attempting to create change politically, being intentionally mean or disrespectful are those that need to be removed no matter who you are. If we can't love one another, then why fight for Equality and fair treatment? Keep having fun Chris.

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I think you should go and get a blow job from a guy you wil love it 

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Just tonight a gay friend told me he went to a gay bar with two straight girls and two straight guys. One of the straight guys got into a violent rage over a gay guy pinching his ass. The straight guy was ejected.

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No tolerance for violence.  I went to a gar bar with a straight friend.  He got so turned on by a drag queen,who was  a hot female, he wanted to do her.  I said that is a guy.  He didn't care.  On the way home, I touched his chest.  he grabbed my arm and he  stopped me.  He said NO. Now, that was a better way of handeling something like that.Not getting violent.  What if the guy had a gun?  You never know.  i was out with another straight guy,and I liked him alot, i thought he was mine.  When his girlfriend was around, I was jealous.  lol  He talked to me and it was ok.  He went on to college.  Never heard from him anymore.  just thought you'd like to hear that.

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The only problem is that the amount of gay bars is very low compared to regular bars .straight people have in most cities have 99%of the bars. They can use them. A lot of gay people feel that the straight people don't respect them when they invade the bar ,get loud and obnoxious and make out. It's taken gays 50 years to.get some rights  the straights have had them for centuries. Most straight bars would be pissed if 2 guys made out in them . I know have seen it many times.

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Exactly. gay bars exist for a reason - they are a safe space for many gay people to let loose and be themselves. If I go to a bar that is 50% straight, I may as well just go to a straight bro bar and risk getting harassed by frat boys. Some straight guys are going to gay clubs now specifically to hit on women. I find that desperate and offensive to our community.

As you said, the ratio of straight bars to gay is 500 to 1 (at least). Cant we have our own place?

When I walk into an establishment that says "Chinese Restaurant" I expect Chinese food not Italian or Greek. When I walk into a gay bar I expect mainly gay people to be there.

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Smart guy!

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Gay or straight who cares. We are all adults and we should learn to share the space. I bring my straight friends to gay bars and they're cool with.

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Gay bars are for everyone. So sure go all you want. It is always a good time. Plus anyone who thinks you are cute really is drunk as you are super sexy.

Great video. The world needs more guys like you.

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Just some perspective from someone who runs a gay bar in the UK.

While it's nice that straight men feel comfortable coming to gay bars, in my experience almost all trouble on our premises is caused by them. Many aren't like the man in the video, and come solely for the purpose of meeting women. Our area also has later closing times than other parts of the city, as well as too many fast food outlets, so it tends to attract very drunk men who are looking to find something to eat and keep drinking and meet women after everywhere else has closed.

The bars are in a huge predicament. The law won't allow us to go men-only (which would discourage straight men), so we have to require the bouncers to apply an extremely subjective policy on whether men coming in look gay enough (which pisses off gay customers who get refused entry) and an unofficial policy of only letting in women who are accompanied by men that look gay. None of which really works.

It's also not confined to the bars. Our street, which was once world famous, is basically dying on its arse because it's become unsafe. It's always had problems with muggings, but over the last ten years homophobic crime has increased massively and most of it is down to drunken straight men, but we have no power to do anything about that.

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I have many straight friends that go to the gay bars, theres nothing wrong with it. they are just there for a good time and sometimes tell the gays that are hitting on them that they are straight and dont mind the advances and will often play along. they can go shirtless and have drinks bought for them as well as all the compliments they get. some just go because pool is cheaper there and some go for the fun experience.

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I say where ever you enjoy yourself the most that is where I personally would go. I love a mixed crowd in a gay bar. Open minded people can have fun no matter the setting, Be free and enjoy. Sexuality is such a small part of life. Your presence in my gay world is welcome and much loved. I wish there were more people like you. Life would certainly be a lot more fun and entertaining. If someone has a problem with you as a straight guy being there, then that is their problem and in my opinion it shows non acceptance on their part. Party on!

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Three things:

1) There are bars across the country that specifically cater to certain things: A bar for Latinos, a bar for people who like Country and Western dancing, a bar for black people etc. Gay bars were designed for a specific audience and for people who want that specific audience.

2) With this new "religious freedom act" gay people can be denied service anywhere just for being gay, No one would ever specifically deny service to someone for being straight. We deserve our own "safe space".

3) About two years ago, I was in a straight bar in Nashville. A couple of drunk frat bros and their GF's started bullying my friend and his BF because they were hugging and sitting close to each other. I'm sorry but there is a double standard. Straights would never get harassed out of the bar.

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Gay bars won't be gay for long if they are flooded with straight guys who think we have cheaper drinks and we're more fun. (Yes, we are more fun, but that's beside the point). If straight bars aren't working for you, figure out a way to make the straight bars serve your interests better. Same with the bachelorettes who think a gay bar is a fun place to go and make fun of the inmates. We're not a side show; don't treat us like one.

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Awesome you are so right that straight guys should go to gay bars. They would be more open minded and not so homophobic. 

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I think more straight guys should think the way you do.

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straight girls have ruined gay bars.  They should just stay away.

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I am a gay man and I have a best friend that is straight.  Going to a gay bar is what we do. Occasionally we will go to a straight bar but that only if we go for karaoke.  He has more fun sometimes than I do and he picks up girls more than I pick up guys.  We have been good friends for about 2 years now. Of course you get those weird and stupid people that thinks hes in the closet or thinks that we are dating.  But we ignore those people and have fun with our friends who are a mix of gay and straight people.   I remember one time we went to a straight bar and stayed there for about an hour looked around and we both said lets go.  A gay bar has better music, better people, better drink prices and just an all around better atmosphere to have fun in and plus there are more straight girls that go there to have fun and no get hit on all the time from straight guys.  They have all kinds of parties there (bachelorette, birthday etc.) and they always bring their girls all the time. So if you are a straight guy looking to have fun go to a gay bar.  Preferable with a gay friend so he can show you what to do and what not to do.

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i wonder how much "gay bar experience" he has or whether he is simply one of those "enlightened straight men" who love to brag about their gay friends, claim they have to defend being friends with black men, and believe their biggest struggle is being sensitive to women. He also makes gay bars sound like social clubs. The local watering hole might be but it's not filled with well dressed men and drag queens. Nightclubs might be like he describes, but many of us know these places are rather superficial, like their straight counterparts. Also women I know who go to gay bars usually go to have a good time and not to be picked up, so they would find a guy like this patronizing.

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Perhaps i should make a vid to explain why as a gay man i go to straight bars. Would that get me this shameless attention as well?

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All my straight mates love going to gay bars with me. They get away with things no straight bar would allow.  Do what you want. Have fun. And I definitely think your cute. I'd buy you a top shelf drink anytime. G x

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He's gay. Met him in weho before. He has the wandering eye. He never dated girls until recently- now he's with some average looking girl with two kids- yeah- basically screams "closet case". 

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he is a arrogant prick! not quite as cute as he thinks!!! and has just not found the a guy he is interested in having sex!  just a matter of time.  he alluded to older men wanting to buy him a drink in a straight bar.  that older man just did not offer enough money.  everyone has a price.  if he is not gay, neither am I, and I certainly am!  he just has not found the right guy that turns him on!  his mannerisms are gay. his voice tone is gay. bet he walks like a gay boy! you know the walk! and IF he does do girls, it is just to try to make himself believe he is straight. delusional. will find a guy he wants and later come out, ot maybe live in that crowded closet all of his life. now he is just lookimg for compliments on his looks to bolster his ego. probably serious insecurities.  met many just like him and eventually bedded them all!!!

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Joe King, you do everyone a disservice by insisting that each person is either all-straight or else all-gay.

Chris Thompson might not be a closeted gay, and might not be straight, because he might be a bisexual who just needs a little more time on the clock to reach his full potential.  So long as he doesn't annoy anybody, it's probably best that we all stay tolerant, accepting, and open-minded.

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I have plenty of gay friends who go to straight bars ......... and do better meeting guys!

To each his own.  If you paid more attention to what you're doing and not your neighbor, you might actually be happy!

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I'm a gay male and i have a lot of straight friends and they have gone to the gay bars with me.

I think that you are not only an attractive man, but very smart and open minded as well.

Good job with the post.

George Busse

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That just reminded me, for those of you from Dallas who know who Frank Caven was, one time when I was very drunk back in the 80's, I suggested to him that if he played rock music in his bars, that it might attract straight guys.  OMG, I've cringed every time I think about saying that to him!  Ha!

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Dammit.  The secret is out.  The gay bars are super fun.  Maybe that's why Christians hate us so much.  Now we have to figure out how to keep the cute straight boys away.  What on earth are we going to do with all that eye candy?  

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When I was in the military several of my straight male friends came along with me/us.  We all loved to drink and dance.    We all had a great time!! Nothing wrong with it at all.

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Chris... you're my kind of guy! I love my straight allies (make and female) that come to the gay bars with me, and I would be of the first to introduce you to one of my straight female friends. Just the fact a self identified straight guy is open to going to a gay bar speaks so much to how accepting we all should be. Gay friends are actually invaluable to their straight friends so you are in great company, just expanding your social network alone!

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I love him!! Now that's a secure man!! U go boy!! Those facts r truly facts!!

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My best and closest friend was straight as can be, but he loved going to gay bars because they were (and I quote) "just crazier and a lot more fun." He passed away January 1st of this year, and I miss him every day. He could make me laugh until I cried.

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He's always been amazing and one of our coolest and staunchest allies. I'd love to hang with him.

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Your cool. Who cares about the nay Sayers say. You go out and have a good time. We only live once. 

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you would be fun to run into at a gay bar  keep up the fun.

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